Relax, we haven't gone all retro on you! But in this she-pays-the-bills, he-does-the-dishes society, men sometimes still need to unleash their alpha side. One writer explains. I consider myself a feminist. Raised by a charter subscriber to Ms. magazine, I was brought up to believe that men and women are equal players in the world. I've never flinched at having a female boss. I stumped for Hil